I am not one to discuss politics with people. I still believe that my opinion is just that, and I would rather not have heated discussions with friends and family. So, breathe easy because I am not going to talk about the election or any of that.
Today I want to talk about men and women. I guess I should make sure that you know that I am a believer in Christ and His holy word. Having said that, I am so disappointed and saddened at the view when I am looking at men and women these days. Society has so much influence on us, whether we think so or not. It has changed the view of what a man should be and look like. The same with women. I'll begin with men.
Men, do you know what your role is, as a man? God has designed men and called them to be leaders. To provide, protect, care for, and LEAD their families. If you do not have a family, you still have these qualities, even if they are buried deep down. How? Why? because God has embedded them into you. Society likes to mock men, call them stupid. Make them look like the lesser species. This is ridiculous. Men were made to be physically stronger. Look at their larger frames, their bigger, more callused hands, the roughness in their voices. We want to know why so many men are relying on women to handle business. Its because that is what we are grooming them into! Yes, women are strong and can handle their business, and I will get to that. But men, where has your pride gone? That pride that drove you to work hard every day to bring home even the smallest paycheck to feed your family? Where has the pride gone where you take great care of what you have so that it lasts a long time? Where has your pride gone to that allows your family to feel protected? There was a time, for example the great depression, when men had to go and ask for help. Those men beat themselves up about that. Why? Because their pride was bruised, because they were unable to provide for their families. As a society these days we are telling men that we don't need them. they are disposable. absolutely not! God designed you to be stand tall before your family, to be an example to others, to your kids, that they might say "i want to be just like my dad!" or "I want to marry someone just like my father!" Men are made to lead, and we should encourage them to lead, and hold them accountable to that!
Women. Oh women. I am sorry if this is offensive in any way, but this is my blog and my opinion will be free to fly. What has happened to us? We were also designed in a special way, by God, to fill a role. First off, I am not a feminist, at all. And I do not believe we were made to be door mats. But seriously, we are made to be companions. We are strong, we can be independent and take care of ourselves. And we can climb the ladder of success in any career path we choose. Absolutely things we can do. But we can also hold tight to our God given design. We are natural nurturers. I realize there are extreme cases where this is not so, but most of us, we nurture. We care for people, animals, our belongings, everything! God did not create us to be equals in the roles we play. that is just the plain and simple truth. God gave women smaller frames, a curve in our arm that men do not have, softer voices, skin, appearance, everything! We are made to be "soft". Again, we are not made to be taken advantage of and walked all over. Do you have any idea the strength it takes to be soft? We have to control our tongues, our tone, step down sometimes to let a man lead where he should. It takes incredible strength to quiet our desire to take over and just be soft.
As women we have a power that men do not seem to posses. With one word we can bring a man to his knees. We can tear him down so much faster than anyone else possibly could. Why? because we are who they are looking to for approval. They lead, provide, protect, and we give one ounce of attitude in our tone, and our man, our big, strong, tougher than nails man, comes slouching down. We are called to be encouraging, lifting them up. Not telling them they are idiots and stupid and that we can do things better than they can. Maybe you can do something better, but is that what you have been called to? Not necessarily.
I find it incredibly discouraging that our society has been able to penetrate us this way. Every "family" show on television right now portrays the man as stupid. The wife will always say "oh ok" and the when the husband leaves the room they roll their eyes or scoff and give a demeaning remark. If your husband heard you say something like "you're an idiot!" how would he react? would he cower and walk away? Would he spew something equally hurtful to you? Regardless of what his reaction is, he is responding to your awful words of discouragement. And, I am sure, it stings when those words come from him. How can you feel good thinking your husband thinks you are stupid? If we are supposed to be "equals" why isn't that working out so well at home? If we are supposed to be equals, why does it only tear us down? Because we are not made the same, we are not "equal" in that sense.
Women, love, nurture, build up your man. Tell him you appreciate him. Tell him you are proud to be his wife. Tell him anything like this, and i guarantee he will walk a little taller.
Men, tell your wife you love her, that she is beautiful. That you are grateful for how she tends to your family. Provide for her, protect her, have pride in your family. You are supposed to be the one that steps up and takes care of business. Do it! Take back your pride! Lets step up and be the people we were designed to be, instead of trying to outdo everyone in our path. We were not created to be equal, we were created to be different. Complete opposites actually. We were made to compliment each other.
I am so blessed that my husband knows his role and is fighting everyday to be what God has called him to be. I am proud to say that my husband does lead our family, he provides for us so that I can be home with our children. He has a natural instinct to protect us, whatever the "attack" might be. He walks with his head high knowing that he can take pride in the way he leads his family.
Lets have it men! Let us see your leadership. And women, lets see your encouragement. Be the one lifting him up so he can reach that potential instead of being the one to tear him down and strip him of it all.
